Why More Latinas Should Consider Questioning Monogamy

Even though we’re well into the 21st century, romantic relationships are still tangled up in rigid notions about loyalty, obedience, ownership, and, of course, monogamy. Monogamy isn’t something we are taught to question, especially as women. We’re told that we’re meant to have sex exclusively in a committed partnership or not have it at all. The ability to remain sexually “pure” for the purpose of one’s future “husband” is paramount. Add in all the religious dogmas that underlie those beliefs — “God will strike you down” and “you’ll go straight to hell” (if you waver in your chastity) — and it’s terrifying. The idea that we are either virgins or “wh*res” doesn’t give us a lot of options.